Category: Fatherhood

Ten years ago today — being a father learning from my Father.

Ten years ago today there was little question that I needed to change. Ten years ago today, the cliche of “your life has changed forever” was repeated across the Maternity ward at Tamworth Base Hospital and across Facebook and over the phone as friends and family congratulated us. Our first son Samuel was born. Ten

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The year of courage, faith, and adventure

One year ago I had an accident which abruptly halted my life. In reflection, it has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Pre-MRI. Ruptured biceps tendon on my left arm — November 2017 Day 1 post op. Ready to start my rehab…also, I don’t fancy strong opiates (too much clean living) 28/11/17.

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Lessons in Manhood for my sons — Value

My heart is in turmoil and my soul aches. My resolve is being tested. The broad statements that are being pitched on social media and shared across the world deepen my sorrow for my fellow man. #metoo #sexual misconduct #pornography I’ve fought with thoughts of defending my gender but have balanced this with deep sorrow

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Five ways I’m learning to be a better dad in 2018

I can’t believe it has been three years since my first post on The healthy GP where I reflected on the five things that my sons needed from me. Since then: We had another boy! (Benjamin) I’ve changed the dynamics and focus of my work (Aged and Palliative care) Kylie started to study and run

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They call me Dad

The midwives called me Dad for the first time, when caked in vernix and crying because his safe haven had been so abruptly removed, I cut my son Samuel’s umbilical cord, welcoming him into the world. I tentatively called myself a Dad, when Samuel cried uncontrollably in the middle night, I stood helpless, not knowing

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What are men thinking and hoping for?

Photo by Joshua Earle on Unsplash It was the end of a long day of operating and we’d finished more cases than we’d set out to complete. Drearily my eyes looked across the operating room and caught Steven’s gaze, as he longingly studied the clock. It was nearly home time. “So what are you eating tonight?”

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To my brown eyed boy

Two years ago our family welcomed Benjamin Frederick Ramachenderan into the world. Like many babies, his birth was expected and well prepared for. He received the best in evidenced based antenatal care and his mother nurtured him well, as she looked after her body and kept herself healthy. He was the youngest, born into a

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How to use your words to powerfully give hope

A few months ago, I made a patient cry. His body shook as tears ran down his face, faster than he could wipe them away. I had told him the truth. It wasn’t what he had expected to hear from his doctor, nor was it something that he had ever heard from anyone else. It had

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36 thoughts on my 36th birthday

These are my reflections, predictions, deepest desires and thoughts on my 36th birthday. 1) As I grow older, the worries can mount and the joy can be eroded and the excitement fade BUT my God, my Jesus and my saviour fills me with his spirit daily and I am growing deeper in love with him.

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