What are men thinking and hoping for?

Photo by Joshua Earle on Unsplash It was the end of a long day of operating and we’d finished more cases than we’d set out to complete. Drearily my eyes looked across the operating room and caught Steven’s gaze, as he longingly studied the clock. It was nearly home time. “So what are you eating tonight?”…

To my brown eyed boy

Two years ago our family welcomed Benjamin Frederick Ramachenderan into the world. Like many babies, his birth was expected and well prepared for. He received the best in evidenced based antenatal care and his mother nurtured him well, as she looked after her body and kept herself healthy. He was the youngest, born into a…

How to choose the beautiful imbalance of life over work

“Jonathan I just can’t seem to get an appointment to see you, don’t you work in the afternoon anymore?”, a long term patient asked me as we entered my office. “No, I try to get home most days to be around with the boys and Kylie, it really helps at that time of the day”, I…

How to use your words to powerfully give hope

A few months ago, I made a patient cry. His body shook as tears ran down his face, faster than he could wipe them away. I had told him the truth. It wasn’t what he had expected to hear from his doctor, nor was it something that he had ever heard from anyone else. It had…

36 thoughts on my 36th birthday

These are my reflections, predictions, deepest desires and thoughts on my 36th birthday. 1) As I grow older, the worries can mount and the joy can be eroded and the excitement fade BUT my God, my Jesus and my saviour fills me with his spirit daily and I am growing deeper in love with him….

The most popular posts on theHealthyGP in 2015

What a brilliant year! I’ve wondered why my wife and I were so tired towards the end of year and realised a great deal had happened! We are enjoying a break in warm Perth at the moment, reflecting on the year that was and preparing to tackle 2016. These posts below were the most read…

Ask important questions

“Dad look at me, look at me, look at me WITH YOUR EYES!!!”, I swung my head around to look, interested at my sons request. There he was, having completed a 40 piece puzzle in no time at all. My three and half year old son, I was struck. “When did learn to solve puzzles let…

The purpose of fatherhood

  This morning I was awoken with a head nestled into my face. I opened one eye to see a cheeky 3 year old peering at me. His mum had said to leave me alone but eye contact was all the he needed to start jumping on me, instinctively I bent my leg upwards and…

The concern that never leaves parents

Most parents would admit that somewhere deep inside of them is a little worry or anxiety about their children and their future that never seems to leave. This usually involves concerns about their health and development, their education, their friends and the environment in which they are growing up in but most of all, it…

How husbands can love their wives

Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose – Don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted (may you be always captivated by her love) (Message translation) This proverb is poignant on Valentine’s day. It talks about that exhilarating moment…

Make lasting connections with your children

Over the last 6 years I’ve wrestled with the balance of work and life but there has been one thing that has kept me connected with my two boys, time alone. Despite the relentless emergency department roster, the 14 hour intensive care night shifts and the all-night caesarean festivals, I have found that carving a…

The hardest time of the day to be a Dad

“Daddy’s home!, daddy’s home!,” the boys shriek most afternoons as my car pulls into the drive way, frequently loud enough to make our neighbours smile. It is almost movie like as they run out to greet me, enthusiasm overflowing, and expectant that Dad is going to play with them and has some interesting stories to…