Build circles of protection around your marriage

Imagine losing your house, the place that you purchased with pride and so meticulously maintained. Picture yourself facing the innocent faces of your children, searching for the words to explain your explicit behaviour. Look at your prized possessions, the toys that brought you such pleasure to use and connect with your inner child-like freedom. Now

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Five ways I’m learning to be a better dad in 2018

I can’t believe it has been three years since my first post on The healthy GP where I reflected on the five things that my sons needed from me. Since then: We had another boy! (Benjamin) I’ve changed the dynamics and focus of my work (Aged and Palliative care) Kylie started to study and run

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Are you a boy or a man in your marriage?

A wife who is truly loved by her husband is beautiful. She is beautiful because she radiates confidence in herself. The countenance on her face shows the character of her husband, the words he uses around her, the way that they resolve differences, the small actions of love he deposits everyday and the way that

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How executing on your ideas will grow your leadership (Part 1)

Photo by Diego PH on Unsplash “There’s no shortage of remarkable ideas, what’s missing is the will to execute them” — Seth Godin “Jonathan I think we are going to run with your idea for a forum, but we only have a few months to plan it”, Scott the experienced medical educator said to me over the phone. I

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How a life changing trip to Zimbabwe taught me to be rich

It was the first time that I’d learnt that holding back tears was impossible I held his tiny hand as his grandmother cradled him. My eyes examined, but my heart broke. Years later in reflection, I didn’t realise that this moment would live with me forever as a defining moment in my medical journey. What

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Never underestimate your presence at church

Your presence is important to God. Never underestimate the power that your presence has at Church. Your face, your smile. The position you are sitting in. The people whom you will talk to. The hugs that you will give and the hands that you will shake. The words of encouragement that you will speak to those

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What is Perioperative Advance Care Planning?

I am privileged to write and contribute to Palliverse with this piece about operative decision making and providing compassionate and caring end of life care. As our population ages and we are called to be decision makers for our loved elders, let their end of life wishes guide us. Palliverse is lucky to have a

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How do we live fully?

“How do we live fully so we are fully ready to die?” Ann Voskamp — One Thousand Gifts pg 29 This one sentence has echoed through my mind since I read it a few months ago. It is utterly amazing in the way revelation hits you at the right moment and this one thought has had a profound effect

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They call me Dad

The midwives called me Dad for the first time, when caked in vernix and crying because his safe haven had been so abruptly removed, I cut my son Samuel’s umbilical cord, welcoming him into the world. I tentatively called myself a Dad, when Samuel cried uncontrollably in the middle night, I stood helpless, not knowing

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What are men thinking and hoping for?

Photo by Joshua Earle on Unsplash It was the end of a long day of operating and we’d finished more cases than we’d set out to complete. Drearily my eyes looked across the operating room and caught Steven’s gaze, as he longingly studied the clock. It was nearly home time. “So what are you eating tonight?”

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